Doug & Krista

 

We love being married. Our experience (since 1992) suggests that when the Gospel of Jesus Christ lies at the heart of a marriage, it gives a foretaste of the bliss that awaits us when our Lord returns to consummate His marriage. Indeed, marriage was given to mankind to portray the relationship between Jesus and His bride. Therefore, it ought to be the most joyful of all human relationships. Our desire is to help others find this joy by promoting Gospel-centered passion and practice in husbands and wives as co-laborers, friends, and lovers.

It won’t take you long to realize that we are neither web designers nor professional bloggers. But we do know a thing or two about being happily married. Actually (if we may be so bold), we know quite a bit. Since August of 1992, we have experienced the joys of a great marriage. That’s not to say that it has been only joy since 1992, but we have worked hard to find the kind of happiness that the Scriptures portray marriage to be. And it does take work. Lots of it. But the return on investment is well worth the effort.

What you will find here is a variety of things we have learned, both from God’s Word and from our years together, about how to know and love each other. While we have not achieved ongoing, unending, unfaltering, never-a-difficult-moment ecstasy, we have discovered that living in light of the Gospel, its power and grace, produces an unparalleled relationship of pleasure, intimacy, partnership, love, and fun.

As we said, we are going to share with you what we have learned. (Now, for you engineer-types out there, please be forewarned that it doesn’t work that way. That is, you cannot simply input the proper data and gain the expected outcomes with predictable certainty. Marriage is more art form than formula.) We hope you will not simply run your eyes over our words and check off the mental box that you’ve read something about marriage today. Rather, we encourage you to linger here and spend the necessary time pondering what we say. We don’t claim to have everything figured out, but we do spend a lot of time thinking about how to improve. So, whether you follow our specific examples or not, you will profit greatly by taking the time to think about your marriage.

I, Doug, wrote the above paragraphs. One of the things we are going to do here is write from both “his” and “hers” perspectives (as cleverly distinguished by the “his” and “hers” icons). We might as well begin now. So, below you will find my wonderful wife saying what I said in her words.

That’s not true. We wrote the above paragraphs together. Sure, he typed it, but I gave input…and here we are having our first spat online. (See, we haven’t “arrived” as they say.) I will only add that although we find great help in what others say about marriage, we’ve found what God says to be the most beneficial. The Scriptures will be the basis of the counsel we share here, and thankfully, our experience confirms that it works. (That’s all I have to say, because I already said the rest up there.)

We’ll be adding thoughts, date suggestions, biblical insights, funny stories, and more, so be sure to check back soon.