Early in the Spirit-inspired love song known as Song of Solomon, there is an interchange that occurs virtually daily in every matrimonial relationship. See if you can pick it out of the following verses.
“Tell me, you whom my soul loves, where you pasture your flock, where you make it lie down at noon; for why should I be like one who veils herself beside the flocks of your companions?”
“If you do not know, O most beautiful among women, follow in the tracks of the flock, and pasture your young goats beside the shepherds’ tents“ (Song of Solomon 1:7-8).
Did you catch it? This is the poetic version of a wife asking, “How was work today, Honey?” Only something is amiss here because the man did not reply, “Fine,” as he flips his thumb along the display of his iPhone.
In this love song, the lover wants to know about her husband’s work. She is interested in his vocation. Furthermore, she refuses to be a mere bystander or casual acquaintance with respect to his job. She wants to have intimate knowledge of his skills and workplace. She is jealous of other women who know more details of his profession, and she scorns the thought of being no more than a far off observer of it. She wants to know more about him, and therefore more about his daily labors, than any other human being on the planet.
Wives, take note: every man wants to be respected by his wife. And we desire to believe that our wife finds something attractive and fascinating about that to which we give so much of our time and energy. Men were created to work, and we long for our spouse to be the loudest cheerleader for our endeavors. But we don’t just want rah-rah and pompons, we yearn for a woman who shows sincere, earnest interest in, and admiration for, our work.